by Carol Allen
Does dating exhaust you?
You HATE waiting around, wondering if that guy will call, and feeling CRUSHED when he doesn’t. Or worse, feeling utterly USED when he comes on strong at first, then disappears after you sleep together. What’s that even about?!?
Maybe you’ve had a few relationships in the past, and you’re STILL trying to get over how and why they ended. You thought for sure you’d met The One, and were left heartbroken when it turned out he wasn’t.
It’s all so hard. You feel so much. You have high hopes and rock-bottom lows.
It’s no wonder you may be pondering giving up on trying to find true love, or haven’t made any effort in a while. The heck with it! (You think…) You’ll just work on yourself, spend quality time with your girlfriends and pets, advance your career, and you’ll be JUST FINE, thank you very much.
I mean, if it’s supposed to happen it WILL. And there’s nothing you need to DO. (Just like in the movies, right?)
At least, that’s what you tell yourself.
But the truth is? You’re lonely, and when you consider feeling this way for the rest of your life, it’s D-E-P-R-E-S-S-I-N-G.
The alternative, however, with all its hassles, seems waaay too daunting and just not worth it.
3 Reasons Why Dating Feels So Utterly EXHAUSTING To You
You’re not like other women, and you know it.
Other women don’t mind dating. They may actually THRIVE on all the attention, excitement, and adventure that comes with meeting new men. (Yeah, they’re aliens.)
You, on the other hand, aren’t so enamored by dating. And for good reason.
What should be fun and wonderful has actually been a GIANT pain in the you-know-what for you, especially if things aren’t going well.
See if you agree with any of these:
1. Modern and internet dating feels so…unromantic and misery-making…
Profiles, texting, swiping—it’s just not for you. You’re more comfortable doing the “inner work” (vision boards, affirmations, therapy, candles, rituals, lists) than putting on a little black dress and going to the nearest happy hour—or, heaven forbid, online dating. It’s all too laden with booby traps of disappointment—like men who lie, sexualize you right away, or otherwise waste your time.
2. When you really like a guy, it’s the agony and the ecstasy.
You’re on pins and needles with every interaction. (What did he mean when he said that? Is he into me or not?) You become obsessive if they don’t call or don’t ask you out. (It’s been HOURS since I sent that text and he’s obviously ignoring me or worse, he’s just TOYING with me!) You have a hard time speaking up and asking for what you want for fear it will “scare him away.”
3. You fall too fast and take forever to bounce back from a relationship—even one with someone you didn’t even meet (like one that’s all via email or text).
Connection means everything to you, and if you feel it, you’re all in. Breakups or rejection leave you absolutely devastated—you’ll relive what happened in your mind for months and can’t understand why your friends get over guys so easily. You also stay too long with men you know deep down aren’t right. You turn over every stone to make a relationship work. When you’re out of stones, you’re out of faith. When you’re done, you’re really DONE. A guy has to really blow you away to win you back.
Bottom line—dating is a huge investment for you—of time, of energy, of hope. And if you haven’t had a return on that investment lately, it’s understandable that you’d want to cut your losses and just concentrate on the other—easier—parts of your life.
(Like getting that root canal, learning fluent Latin, or working on a cure for cancer ;-))
From what I’ve observed working with thousands of single women over the course of my 25-plus-year career as a Vedic astrologer and relationship coach, dating is tiresome for most women, at least until they find HIM. But it can be particularly challenging for “soulfully sensitive” women.
They aren’t as easy going as other women, who don’t seem to mind sipping coffee with new men a few times times a week or don’t get so attached so quickly if they feel that spark…
And because sensitive women feel more and suffer more, they too easily give up on love.
Which is a real shame, because soulfully sensitive women have so much love to give and are such a joy to be around.
Why Giving Up On Dating Would Be A Crying Shame
The world is a much better place because of soulfully sensitive people like you.
You’re highly creative. You’re authentic and have the ability to be present in a way that the rest of us achieve only if we meditate for decades. You’re REAL and you don’t apologize for it.
You have a lot of love to give, and when you’re in, you’re ALLLL the way in.
For these reasons alone, you make a great partner, but there’s more:
You’re sensual and sexual. A true goddess in the bedroom, and you’re super snuggly everywhere else…
You’re very conscientious and have high standards for yourself. You don’t like letting your partner down. You want to be there for those you care about and make sure they’re happy.
You’re very empathetic and highly intuitive. This means you make people feel heard and seen, which is glorious. You’re a natural counselor, able to see into people’s very souls. And your friends love you for it! (And your phone is likely ringing all the time with people seeking your advice…) Who wouldn’t want to be deeply known?
That’s why, if you were to give in to your dating fatigue and give up on love, it would be a crying shame.
The world needs better partners and happier marriages with thoughtful, generous people like you!
Any man would be lucky to be in a relationship with a woman like you. So don’t let a few bad experiences with a few bozos ruin it for everybody.
Let me show you how to believe in love again…
Date Better Men, Have More Fun, And Solve Your Dating Fatigue
You don’t need to give up on dating and your dream of finding your life’s companion just because dating challenges you.
I want you to honor your unique nature AND have a man ADORE you for it, too!
You just need a bit of advice and guidance to show you how your sensitive nature is a benefit, not a curse!
But I also know that for women like you, regular dating and relationship advice simply does not apply to you--and it will actually make you nuts, because it’s not geared toward the way you experience life and respond to men.
That’s why I’m super excited to have partnered with Flourish—a group of well-respected experts who are dedicated to spreading the truth about how to create love, what makes it last, and how to improve EVERY relationship in your life.
When you subscribe to Flourish’s FREE dating and relationships newsletter, you’ll get honest, insightful advice with proven strategies for women like you. From meeting men and getting through those first few dates to expressing your needs, you’ll finally have the guidance you require to get off the romance roller coaster and into the rocking relationship you’ve been missing all these years.
You’ll learn about:
- How to end the heartbreak of ghosting, rejection, and go-nowhere relationships by avoiding or reversing the 10 most common dating mistakes.
- A powerful process that will allow you to break the old patterns keeping you stuck and single.
- The #1 reason behind all relationship failure—and how you can heal yourself AND your relationship at the same time.
- How to awaken to your worthiness to love and be loved—and unleash your power to create a relationship that lights you up, inspires you, and brings out the best of who you are.
- What to do when you’re still pining over an old flame—including a piece of advice that will finally open up your eyes to why he’s NOT the one for you after all.
- How to become the kind of woman men will bend over backwards to please.
- And much more…
The truth is this:
You are a gift. The planet needs you. We need your love, compassion and capacity to connect. The men of the world especially need you.
You’re an amazing catch, but nobody will ever know if you lock yourself away for fear that you’re too much.
Let me and the experts at Flourish show you how to make dating and relationships work for you.
Soulfully Yours,
