The TRUTH About Great Sex That You Won’t Find In Cosmo Magazine

by Felice Dunas

There are lies being told to you every single day… nearly everywhere you look.

Lies about what your sex life should be.

Lies about how “most women” are doing things.

And these lies are hurting you in ways you never thought they could…

Open any issue of Cosmo magazine… and you’ll see headlines like this:

• 61 Sex Games That’ll Spice Up Any Relationship.
• The Pretzel Dip Sex Position Will Make You Twist Like Never Before.
• Everything You Need to Know if You’re Curious About Tantric Sex
• How to climax together, a sure-fire technique that takes you both over the edge simultaneously.
• A shocking thing 68% of chicks do in bed.
• 100% Hotter Sex. Thrill every inch of the body using a move no woman has dared to try on him before.
• BAD GIRL SEX. These 12 moves will show him your really naughty side. We call them the dirty dozen

Headlines that make you think that the key to a better sex life is playing games, trying complicated positions, knowing where to please him, or pushing yourself outside your sexual comfort zone.

These headlines tell the lie that good sex is as simple as just doing something different.

But more importantly, they perpetuate the lie that most people are having good sex… and that if you’re not, you’re doing something wrong.

The lie that if you’re not having good sex, you have to spice it up or try something new. That if you’re not having good sex that you need to find a partner who can “give you an orgasm.”

The lie that if you’re not having good sex you’re in the shameful minority that is somehow broken or less-than because you haven’t yet unlocked the secret of the masses.

The lie we’re told by the world at large is pretty bold, considering that some reports show that 70% of women are dissatisfied with their sex lives.

That 10-15% of women have NEVER had an orgasm - and over half of women are dissatisfied with how often they do orgasm.

That almost 60% of women have faked an orgasm, and at least ONE THIRD of women rarely or never reach orgasm during intercourse.

If you’re not having good sex… you’re not alone.

But that doesn’t stop magazines and the mainstream media from making it feel like everyone is having great sex but you.

TV shows and movies use sex as plot devices so often there’s a term for it (it’s called sexposition - where the show gives information about the plot during sex scenes to hold your attention more than just two characters talking, and it was coined because of Game of Thrones).

Movies, TV, contemporary novels… they all perpetuate the idea that frequent and satisfying sexual encounters - in or out of relationships - are normal and even expected.

And I know what you’re saying. “But my friends are all having great sex, too!”

Are they? Or are they caught up in the same story that you are - and perhaps exaggerating the quality of the sex they have… or maybe picking & choosing what they share with you?

Because most women aren’t consistently satisfied during sex. Most women aren’t happy with their sex lives. Most women want better sex.

And like you… they’re looking in the wrong place to find it.

Those women’s magazines are lying to you about how to have good sex…

Lie #1: The Only Way To Feel Pleasure Is To Be Adventurous In Bed

Cosmo’s website has an entire section devoted to different - and oftentimes uncomfortable-looking - sex positions… all of which make you believe that these positions are the key to making sex better for you.

Or they encourage you to try to spice things up with new moves and tactics. Bring food into the bedroom. Try sex in a new place. Role play.

And while for some women, this is a great option to mix things up if they’re already experiencing decent or good sex and want to make it better.

For SOME women, adding adventure and different experiences into their sex life is the right move.

But if you’re struggling with your sexuality - if you’d like to turn on the lights during sex just as much as you’d like to work all night on Friday…

The idea that you now have to do even MORE to feel pleasure is damaging at best and dangerous at worst.

This lie implies that you’re not good enough just as you are. That you have to be and act a specific way in order to be deserving of good sex.

That you have to be - at times - uncomfortable with what you’re doing if you want it to feel good.

Because the one thing sex should be is comfortable and fun. (It’s what mother nature intended!)

How much fun are you REALLY having if you’re pushing yourself outside your comfort zone in order to fulfill someone’s version of a good sex fantasy?

It’s advice like this that makes women believe that pleasure is related to how they act and how “crazy” they’ll get in bed… which is a belief perpetuated by the male-focused sex entertainment industry.

That’s NOT what real pleasure is built on.

Buying into this lie that you have to change something about who you are and what you do in order to have good sex is what’s keeping women from feeling satisfied and keeping women feeling terrible about themselves.

Lie #2: Sex is a Performance

I want to talk about faking it - and I don’t just mean the 59% of women that have faked an orgasm at least once.

Over 80% of women admit to moaning - even when they’re not feeling it - to make their partner feel good during sex. And over 65% of women say they do it to help their partner reach climax.

If you’ve ever faked an orgasm, think about why. Was it because you knew it wasn’t going to happen and you wanted your partner to think it was okay to “take their turn”?

Was it because you didn’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings, or make them think they weren’t good enough to please you? Was it because you were worried about your own performance?

Cosmo and other magazines - along with porn, movies, TV and any other significant cultural influence you can think of - make us believe that good sex looks and sounds a certain way.

And if OUR sex doesn’t look or sound that way (and if the results are not what we wanted)… we must be doing it wrong. We must not be performing the right way.

So if we’re not having good sex… there’s something wrong with the way we’re doing it.

Which is what turns sex into a performance.

And there are a few problems with this.

First - by performing the way we believe we’re “supposed” to during sex - making appreciative noises when we think they’re appropriate rather than when they’re earned - we’re not giving our partners the actual cues they need to know when they’re doing something right.

Second - when we focus so hard on performing a certain way, we prioritize our partner’s pleasure over our own. We put their feelings ahead of our own needs, and minimize ourselves in order to make someone else feel good.

Noble? Perhaps. But certainly not the key to good sex.

If we start to believe that we have to change the way we look or act during sex in order for it to be enjoyable… we do deep, long-lasting damage to our self-image, self-worth, and self-esteem.

We stop feeling good enough as we are and start building psychological barriers to enjoying sex.

We start tying our worth to the “show” we give our partners instead of focusing on how good it feels, how fun it is, and the connection we might be building… which is what sex is ultimately all about.

Lie #3: The Key To Good Sex Is the Same For Everyone

The truth is that media, magazines, movies, TV… they all sell sex as an ideal. It’s not messy, it’s not complicated, and it’s never bad (unless that adds to the story line.)

But you know as well as I do that LIFE is messy. LIFE is complicated. And there is no one-size fits all solution to good sex.

But to read these articles - like the sure-fire way to climax together - perpetuates the idea that there IS something that works for everyone.

But the truth is, every woman is different.

From what you’re attracted to down to the very way your labia is formed - you’re the only you in the world.

So lists of the best sex positions are useless… because “the best” for who?

What makes you feel good is unique to YOU. Which means it’s within YOUR power to claim it. To find it and learn it and refine your skills in the bedroom and teach your partner what works for YOU.

Because a junior writer hidden in a cubicle at the top of a skyscraper who’s never met you before… that person won’t know your body. That person can’t decipher where you’re the most sensitive, or what type of touch makes you tingle.

But you can.

In fact, the ONLY universal truth about sex is that it has as much to do with your brain as it does with your vagina.

See, we’re all taught about sex whether we realize it or not… and in a lot of cases, it’s not the healthiest set of lessons.

We’re taught about what’s appropriate, what looks good, what our partners want in a bedmate. We’re taught how our bodies are supposed to operate and act and look and feel to someone else.

We’re taught how we’re supposed to talk and think and act in sexual situations.

And depending on what your lessons are… you may have some mental or emotional blockages around allowing yourself to have good sex.

You might be stopping yourself before the thought of sex even hits your brain. And the worst part is you don’t even realize it.

These stories and lessons that we’re handed throughout our lives live so deeply inside our souls that we don’t even realize how they’re affecting us from day to day.

Like a woman I know who had such deep-seated body image issues that she stopped in the middle of sex with her husband to cry in shame about how she looked… instead of allowing herself to be lost in a pleasurable moment.

Magazines and mainstream media just assume that you’re emotionally and psychologically capable of having great sex…

But you and I both know that no number of new positions or “sexy bad girl” moves will change what’s living deep inside yourself.

Good sex requires a foundational knowledge of your body and the emotional and psychological tools to use it the way it was intended.

In all the stories we’re told throughout our lives, the one thing that’s missing is the foundational knowledge of our bodies and minds that allow us to enjoy sex the way it’s meant to be enjoyed.

Simply put: we’re not taught the intricacies of our bodies beyond the most simple facts of reproduction (and even that’s adequate at best.)

We’re not taught how the different parts of our anatomy work together to protect and pleasure us.

We’re not taught where our nerves REALLY are (did you know the nerves of the clitoris are behind the walls of the vagina?)

We’re not taught the different positions and tempos and ways to work with our bodies to enhance, increase, and guarantee our pleasure.

And we’re certainly not taught how to explore ourselves to figure it out, either.

In my 30+ years helping women and couples improve their sex lives and discover their sexuality, I’ve realized that it’s this foundational piece that’s holding women back from experiencing everything great sex has to offer.

And because women are missing out on great sex, they’re missing out on all the benefits that being completely sexually satisfied will give them.

They’re missing out on the neurotransmitters that are activated by sex - that impact not only our brain but our entire bodies. They’re missing out on the pain relief, better immune system, and the lower blood pressure.

They’re missing out on the better heart health and possibly lowered risk of heart disease. They’re missing out on the decreased depression and anxiety. The physical and emotional stress relief.

And they’re missing out on the self-esteem that comes with being in touch with your feminine birthright: the power that comes long with your sexuality.

Being sexually fulfilled transforms you. It turns you into a woman who’s self-assured - who knows her worth and knows what she’s capable of. It brings out the confidence that you might not even know you’re missing.

(The same confidence that you chase with magazine articles or try to emulate from movies.)

It helps you choose better partners, interact with others (and yourself) with more respect, and hold those around you to a higher standard.

Because now you see how worthy, desirable, and capable you really are.

When you know what you want, you’re more comfortable with expecting it from others. You refuse to settle for less.

True sexual self-esteem allows you to flourish in all areas of your life. To approach every relationship - from romantic to platonic to professional - with the same standard.

The standard to know that you’re worth respect. You’re worth time. You’re worth effort.

That’s what I want for you. And that’s why I’ve taken that foundational knowledge and put it together in my brand-new program, The Goddess of Pleasure.

The Goddess of Pleasure is designed to not only help you understand what makes your body feel good… but to help you transform the way you and your body live every single day.

The Ultimate Self-Esteem Boost

If by now you know that you can’t find the secret to good sex inside the pages of a magazine or on a prime-time TV show… if you know that you’re ready to discover the REAL sexual education that will transform your life… then this is the program for you.

Throughout this self-paced, self-study program, I’ll give you not only the physical information you need to have good sex… but I’ll help you overcome the psychological and emotional barriers that are holding you back.

I have traveled the world and built an understanding of behavior, the human body, Ancient Principles and contemporary research to enhance the lives of individuals, couples, families, and corporate executives, for nearly forty years.

And now that experience is available to you, in the comfort and privacy of your own home.

I’ve thoughtfully put together a series of videos, intentionally ordered to walk you through the process of discovering and exploring your own sexuality. From the physical knowledge you need, to the skills that you’ll enjoy practicing… the goal is to help you build your sexual self-esteem and skills so you step into the sexual being you are.

Together, we’ll awaken the Goddess of Pleasure in you. And your life will never be the same.

I’ll show you:

• How your body remembers your past (even when you don’t) and exactly how it’s affecting your every experience now… because when you understand where obstacles come from, you’re more able to overcome them…
• The physical introduction you never had to your anatomy - from your vulva to your vagina (and all the little places in between)… INCLUDING what the function of each part of your genitals is for and how it can help you have consistently better sex…

• A full breakdown of the health benefits of sex and how you can increase those benefits with every single sexual encounter (whether or not you have a partner)…
• How attraction is both evolutionary and determined by your life experiences so you can consciously hold your partners to a higher standard (and choose them much more wisely!)…
• The difference between your sex life and your sexuality… and how one influences the other so drastically that it’s impossible not to connect the two…
• My must-watch Thrusting Tutorial that will show you how different movements affect the nerves in your vagina… so you have almost a step-by-step tutorial to heighten your pleasure and direct your partner (or use yourself) to feel good every time…
• The process of seduction and how to become an active participant in your own seduction… which heightens the entire experience AND allows you to retain control over your sexual satisfaction…
• The science behind the orgasm so it’s no longer a magical, mystical thing but a process that you can discover and repeat, reliably, every single time… because The Elusive O is a thing of the past…
• The essential part to your sexual self-care that you might be avoiding - and how you can make sure you’re always healthy, sexually and physically…
• And much, much more.

By the time you have finished the videos and guides that I’ve prepared for you, you will be empowered to not only understand your body… but begin a journey of exploration that will continue to bring you joy, pleasure and confidence for the rest of your life.

I’m honored to show you the key to unlocking your feminine power and the pleasure that comes with it.

Warmly,