The Secret to Loving Yourself and Your Life Without Needing To Fix Anything or Get Anyone’s Approval

by Marci Shimoff

Are you happy with yourself and in love with your life?

Here’s how to know:

You’re frequently optimistic and have a calm, peaceful “vibe” that people gravitate towards. You’re respected by colleagues and cherished by friends. Not because you’re always seeking their approval, but because you love and accept yourself fully, and that is incredibly attractive and inspiring.

You take responsibility for your happiness. You’re grateful for the good things and the good people in your life. You are generous with your love and goodwill, because you understand that there are no limits to how much love and bliss there can be in the world.

You don’t apologize for who you are, what you want, or what you’re passionate about. You live each and every day listening to your heart and soul, no matter where the tide of society is at any given moment.

You’re comfortable in your own skin. You don’t waste time worrying what other people think, or whether or not they like you.

You enjoy your own company when you’re alone and you shine when you’re with the people who love and support you.

You know yourself. You know what brings you joy and you know what drains you. You are keenly aware of your feelings and you’re not afraid to express them. You follow your bliss. You don’t wallow in regrets or “what if’s”.

You don’t say “yes” when you really mean “no”. You’re able to set good boundaries without coming across as aggressive or complaining.

These are just a few clues that you’re a genuinely happy person and you love yourself.

Maybe after reading these, you’re thinking, “Hmm…that sounds amazing. I wish I could feel that way about myself and my life.”

Or like most, you realize that while you have the occasional good days, there are just as many(if not more) days where you’re worried, stressed or feeling blue. And you may be spending a lot of time and energy trying to “fix” that, and it’s actually getting in the way of you being happy.

Here’s what I mean…

The Things You’ve Been Doing to Love Your Life and Feel Good About Yourself Are Bringing You Down Instead

Some of us think that in order to love our life, we have to “fix” or “get” something first.

We think we have to fix how we feel.

So we either numb or stuff down our feelings, or berate ourselves for feeling the way we do. We worry about being too stressed, too anxious, too overwhelmed, and worrying about our feelings only makes them more onerous.

We think we have to be more than who we are.

So we strive, struggle and work hard to achieve whatever goal we set out for ourselves. Whether it’s a personal goal or professional goal. Then when we actually accomplish what we want, we convince ourselves the goal must not have been big enough.

Or we think that others need to love and accept us in order to be happy with ourselves.

So we feel distraught when our friends are annoyed with us or feel unloved and lonely when we don’t have a great romantic relationship.

We see loving our life and loving ourselves as being conditional—dependent on what we manage to accomplish or acquire. So if we haven’t done enough or accomplished enough, or if we aren’t loved enough by others, we don’t feel happy. And we don’t like ourselves.

But what if I told you that you don’t need to fix anything, or have anyone’s approval, in order to be genuinely happy?

You can be happy first, and good things will naturally follow.

Sounds too good to be true?

I used to think so, too. Until I discovered that it’s not.

What the World’s Happiest People Know About What It REALLY Takes to Love Yourself and Your Life

You CAN feel content with yourself and with life, and not because you’ve done anything to “deserve” it.

How do I know?

Because I’ve researched and interviewed some of the world’s happiest people, all of whom genuinely love themselves and their life in the way I just described above.

What’s remarkable about these happy people is that they didn’t need any of the “stuff” you’d assume is a prerequisite to being happy.

They aren’t necessarily wealthy, gorgeous, or super accomplished. It’s not like they all have high-status jobs or million-dollar businesses.

Some are just regular people with regular jobs.

Some are in relationships, some aren’t.

They make mistakes just like you and I make mistakes. They fail sometimes. The difference is that they don’t let their mistakes and failures keep them from moving forward in life.

Their happiness isn’t the result of having, getting or fixing. It’s a catalyst—a catalyst for more optimism, more self-acceptance, and more generosity. Their happiness is a catalyst for loving themselves, too.

That’s because positive feelings create the conditions for more positive outcomes: abundant friendships, better career opportunities, more romance.

They weren’t waiting on anyone’s approval before they could feel good about themselves.

They weren’t hungry to be told they were loved or liked before they felt lovable.

They weren’t waiting for their finances or circumstances to improve before they felt abundant.

They already loved themselves and their lives. They were already happy. And that made all the difference.

And here’s the biggest secret of all:

Anyone can become a genuinely happy person.

I know, because I discovered that the happy people I studied had something in common: specific habits. Habits ANYONE can learn and become the kind of person who loves themselves and their life, too.

Here’s the Simple Secret to Loving Yourself and Your Life, No Matter What Happens Day-to-Day

What if you didn’t need to fix anything about yourself or your life in order to feel genuinely happy?

You didn’t need to become rich and famous, land that dream job, or fall in love with the perfect soulmate.

Because you can do all of that, and STILL be unhappy!

(This happens all the time, by the way. It happened to me.)

Instead, what if you could learn how to be happy and love your life in a way that doesn’t require that you strive, struggle or achieve anything?

You can, because what I learned after my year-long research into the nature of happiness is that all it takes are certain habits.

These are habits that are simple to learn and easy to implement. But they’re powerful, because when you practice these habits for just 10-15 minutes a day, you can completely change the way you feel about yourself and your life.

This is the big secret that I discovered when I completed my research into the nature of happiness.

In my 30 Days to a Happier Life video program, you’ll learn all about what these habits are and exactly how to implement them into your daily life.

When you learn these habits, everything will change for you.

You’ll feel unencumbered by what others think of you. You’ll have a calm sense of “rightness” about your life. You won’t be afraid to ask for what you want and need.

You’ll wake up each day and know in your heart that you are exactly where you need to be, doing what you’re meant to do.

It’s all here in my video program, where I demonstrate and explain, step-by-step, every single habit. It’s so much easier than you think! In 30 days or less, your entire experience of yourself and your life can change.

With love and happiness,